When life in Naija drains your soul, silence becomes your revenge.
The Burnout Nobody Talks About
In Nigeria, people expect you to be “strong.”
Strong when your boss disrespects you.
Strong when fuel price goes up, again.
Strong when family calls asking, “You never send money?”
You smile, you endure, you show up every day
but deep down, you’re tired.
Tired of being reliable.
Tired of being available.
Tired of pretending you’re fine.
That’s when it hits you:
Sometimes, the only way to survive is to disappear.
The Power of Strategic Disappearance
Disappearing doesn’t mean running away.
It means pressing pause, on noise, people, expectations.
It’s when you stop trying to please everyone and start building quietly.
It’s when your WhatsApp goes “Last Seen: 2 weeks ago”
and you’re not depressed, you’re reprogramming your peace.
You don’t owe the world your constant presence.
You owe yourself your clarity.
The Reset That Changed Everything
Let me tell you about Tola, a friend of mine from Ibadan.
For years, Tola was everyone’s “go-to person.”
She’d lend money she didn’t have, show up for people who ghosted her,
and say “yes” even when her soul screamed no.
Then one day, after her boss humiliated her at work,
she packed her bags, switched off her phone,
and left Lagos for her aunt’s quiet home in Osogbo.
No announcement. No drama. Just disappeared.
For three months, she cooked, read, and prayed.
She healed.
And when she returned, she didn’t come back begging for respect —
she walked in it.
Why Nigerians Need to Disappear Sometimes
Nigeria teaches you to hustle nonstop.
But the truth is: you can’t pour from an empty jerrycan.
Disappearing helps you:
- Recharge emotionally – Mental health is not “oyinbo talk.” It’s survival.
- Regain perspective – Silence makes you see what really matters.
- Rebuild authority – People respect absence more than they value over-availability.
- Filter your circle – When you go quiet, you’ll see who truly cares.
Absence has a power presence can never have.
The Nigerian Reset Strategy (Step-by-Step)
- Go Offline, Intentionally
You don’t owe anyone constant updates.
Mute the noise. Silence the chaos. - Revisit Your Why
What are you chasing and is it still yours?
Reset your goals around peace, not pressure. - Heal Privately
Not every healing needs a post.
Grow in silence. Let results do the talking later. - Rebuild in the Shadows
Take a course. Learn a skill. Read daily.
Don’t announce your grind , surprise them with your glow-up. - Return Like a Storm
When you reappear, do it with results.
A new business. A calmer energy. A stronger boundary.
Because the comeback isn’t for revenge, it’s for reinvention.
The Psychology Behind the Reset
Psychologists call it strategic withdrawal, stepping back to protect your mental energy and reframe your life narrative.
In Nigerian slang: “Sometimes, you gats ghost to grow.”
Every powerful comeback starts with silence.
Every strong version of you was once hidden.
The Comeback Mindset
When you reappear:
- Speak less. Move intentionally.
- No long explanations.
- Let your new peace do the talking.
- Let your new glow handle your haters.
- Let your results introduce you again.
Disappearing isn’t failure.
It’s your private university of self-mastery.
So, if you’re tired of noise, judgment, or fake love, vanish.
Not forever.
Just long enough to reset, rebuild, and rise.
Sometimes silence is your loudest upgrade.
Take your peace back.
Disappear with purpose.
Then come back unrecognizable.
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